Saturday, December 21, 2013

How to Make Out with a Girl in 40 seconds or Less – For Real

If you've ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn't know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it's magical or out of reach - a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it's not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I'm going to break down those steps.

The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who's really good with women and someone who's not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who's ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it's true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who's already in this "make-out ready" state, so you can walk up and be "that guy."

Don't buy into the myth that women don't want this to happen.
 Check out this video on the subject.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this "turbo" make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn't happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one's approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you're able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.


There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For


The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain... When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called "Eye Accessing Cues." When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she's accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she's saying: "I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I'm looking down." And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn't just use her eyes to look down), she's physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn't look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she's meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you're going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That's one quality which shows you'll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she's actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she's not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It's going to take much longer.

Again, you're going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can't just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she's constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that's a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they're moving and how they're dressed. Let's say she's standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It's less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That's because she's standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she'll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she's dressed. If she's dressed in a way that's super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn't the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention - not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who's in between "I don't care" and "Stare at my tits, bitch!" Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who's in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don't want to over dress or under dress, and don't know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They'll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That's what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I'd actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you've seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you're going to walk up and start the scary part.


What To Do



This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It's very, very important that you understand how to control someone else's frame if you want to come across like you're a pro at this.

By "frame," I basically mean their "reality." You're controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I'm going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I'll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it...

Here's what I would say, word-for-word... Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, "Shhh…"

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, "Wait just one moment."

You can also say, "Stop for one minute." I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears "stop," "wait," or "don't," they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, "Don't think of a black cat," what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, "Don't try to make out with me," or "Don't make out with me right now," girls are going to be consciously hearing, "Don't make out with me," but their subconscious minds will be hearing, "Make out with me right now!"

You're attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, "I should make out with this guy."

Now, during frame control you'll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don't try to seduce women who don't want to be seduced. Again, that's one of the reasons why it's important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to "Shhh" for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with "don't" or "wait" or "stop."

My typical is "Don't worry... right now." That's all I say. And I slow that speech down – "Don't…worry…....... right now."

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, "You and I are going to have a secret. We're going to secretly kiss and no one will know."

And as I'm saying this, I'm leaning in... and you'll be doing the same when you do it. You're leaning in ever... so... slowly. At the same time, you're looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called "Triangulating." Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two... etc. Do that about three or four times as you're talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn't expect you're going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, "We're going to have a secret. We're going to kiss and no one is going to know." From here on out, you're really just filling up space with words as you're leaning in so you're still controlling the interaction.

So you're going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won't pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.


Signs That It's Working



Is she looking at your lips? If she's looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she's looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It's a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that's how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you're getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she's looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You'll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.


!Important!



In a loud environment like a bar, you'll want to speak louder, but don't raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you're going to keep talking... What I usually say is, "No one is going to see this. It's just going to be our little secret. I promise I won't tell anybody only if you promise that you won't tell anybody either."

As I'm saying this into her ear, I make sure that she's feeling my breath on her neck. So I'm sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I'm speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you're speaking really close to her ear, you'll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you're talking. Then you'll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then... you'll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck... then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds - I've done it in less time, and I've seen other guys do it, too.


Practice It



What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won't use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it's really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who's in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she'll be turned off and you've lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that's what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman... and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality... how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn't turn off any of her weird alert switches... specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she's totally in your zone.

What's taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

Discover my other top 3 "Seduction Secrets" in this special video presentation.

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Secrets Of Seduction : Using Humor As Your Secret Weapon

You’ve approached the object of your desires. You’ve got a first date. How do you carry it off and make sure she’s “hooked” on you?

I’ll let you in on the Master Seducer’s secret – humor.
If you can make a girl laugh and giggle, then most of the hard work of seduction is done. Why? Because laughing makes people happy – it releases endorphins in the brain which make us feel good. And we like being around people who make us feel good (makes sense, doesn’t it).

It is also the best form of relaxation – laughing is known to lower the heart rate. And if a girl feels happy and relaxed in your presence on a first date, then your 90% there.

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It’s natural on a first date for the barriers to be up – she will be mentally screening you, checking you out. It can make for a very nervy encounter on both sides. But with the use of humor, you make her smile, make her laugh and she becomes relaxed and open. And that should be your goal for a first date.

So how should you use humor?

Well, I’m not advocating you be a clown. Don’t go overboard, and don’t just mindlessly memorize loads of jokes and reel them off – if she’d wanted to go and see a stand up comedian, she wouldn’t be on a date with you would she?

A few jokes are ok – pick yourself up a good joke book, or look online. Find a handful of good jokes and memorize them. Throw in one or two slightly risqué ones if you feel she is warming to you (but not overly smutty or chauvinistic)

Joke about your environment – the surroundings you are in.

Tell her funny stories and anecdotes about your past, your work, your experiences. Prepare in advance and think of these things in advance.

Watch comedies on television and hire some comedy and stand up comedy DVD’s. These will give you a few funny sketches you can reel off, plus they will help you “tune in” to being funny.

Remember, your aim when using humor is to make her smile, laugh and relax. You should be able to quickly assess what kind of things make her laugh and adjust your humor accordingly. You don’t want her rolling around on the floor, crying with laughter.

Learn how to put a woman at ease with humor and you will never have a problem seducing the woman of your dreams.

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Saturday, January 12, 2013

Break the Rules to Get the Girl



Are you lost in a sea of information, grasping to find the real deal on how to attract a woman FOR KEEPS?  Does it seem like there's a new book coming out every week, leaving you deeper in confusion about which advice to take??

Worse, you have friends and colleagues giving you their own unique take on what works and what doesn't work in a relationship.  The World Wide Web is filled to the brim with all sorts of conflicting information, and it's hard to make sense of it all.

If all of the things those authors have tried in their own lives have worked for each and every one of the - why do their books cancel each other out?? 

There can be only so many versions of the truth out there; it can drive an average guy NUTS.

Well, this is where your INNER VOICE comes into play.  It's really up to you to decide which piece of advice would work BEST with your unique circumstances. 

And there are a lot of useful books out there that offer SENSIBLE, REAL-LIFE guidance on not only having an awesome love life, but a great lifestyle in general.

If you want such a guide to help you make sense of things, you should check out the definitive guide for guys:

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You need to pick this up if you want to be at your best, most authentic self that the ladies will fall for. 

Yet, there are a lot of so-called dating experts who are - honestly speaking - pouring POISON into the collective ear of the male population.  I mean, there's just a TON of B.S. floating around on the web as well as in print media.

The stuff I'm talking about here is RULES.  Strict, rigid rules that will only curse you to singlehood - till kingdom come. 

I have to tell ya, a lot of my own friends have been badly burned from following a bunch of arbitrary "dating laws". 

What you might not know is that these rules only serve to make clueless guys even MORE narrow-minded than they were before.

I get where these rules are coming from though.  With dating, so much can go wrong; believing that certain regulations within a clearly-defined system could somehow bring order to a chaotic environment.

And from a theoretical standpoint, following rules will safely keep you out of harm's way (such as being rejected, getting dumped, etc.). 

However, real life doesn't work like that.

Personally, I'm more of a "go with the flow" kinda guy.  I like to size up a situation and respond to it accordingly without a bunch of rules dictating my every move like I was some machine.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but you can't put the world of relationships into neat little compartments as if it was a science experiment.  Some people look at social dynamics in the same way as a computer program driven by inflexible rules (read: NOT true), and so they repeatedly run into DISASTER.

The thing is - a healthy, stable relationship (long-term or otherwise) isn't brought about by religiously adhering to these "lawsï" like your life depended on it. 

Adaptability, creativity and RESPECT towards women will give a set of dumb rules an ass-whooping any day.

Most of these "unbreakable" rules revolve around game-playing, manipulation and utter disregard for a woman's sensibilities.  Let's take a look:

- The best way to bring a woman down a couple of notches is to take a few pot shots at her ego.  The more beautiful she is, the more aggressive your disguised insults need to be.

- Before you get involved with someone new, you first need to give yourself an allowance of X number of years or months after breaking up with your previous girlfriend.

- After a date, wait X number of days before calling her back.

- You'll need to approach a woman within X number of seconds of spotting her.

What a doozy huh?  If I didn't know better, I'd be following these rules like crazy before I ultimately run my love life to the ground.

The people who came up with these rules are probably projecting their own experiences.  Therefore, it's basically made to serve their OWN needs rather than every guy out there. 

Everybody's situation is different, so you can't expect to use these rules as a one-size-fits-all kind of glove for the ENTIRE dating scene.  These laws won't work for every single guy in the known universe, so it's really pointless to follow them to the letter.

It's more important to have a PERSONALITY that's suited to the dating world.  The truth is that you can't substitute your real self with these rules. 

A personality defined by self-confidence and non-neediness will be your best guide to making the RIGHT DECISION. 

Rules don't really capture the spirit of healthy dating ' they MIGHT work for you this one time, but it doesn't follow that your precious rules will get you consistent results!

On the flip side, I can honestly appreciate the IDEA behind these rules, which is to prevent you from getting burned.  Yet, narrowing general guidelines down to extremely specific tenets simply won't work for all situations.

For instance, pinning down the exact number of days before calling ANY woman you date is just plain silly.  I mean yeah, you don't want to look super EAGER or NEEDY, but don't you think the level of attraction will VARY from girl to girl?

Maybe a certain date of yours seemed really interested to see you again, while another woman wasn't all that receptive to your advances.  That simply means you can't expect to apply one rule to two different people.

Since I'm feeling like a nice guy today, I'll give you some quick pointers on the ideas BASED on the rules we talked about:

- Don't act like a woman's approval is your sole reason for living.  Seeking validation from someone other than yourself is NOT attractive.

- If she catches on that you're so DESPARATE to be in a relationship, you might end up driving her away.

- Don't make a big deal out of approaching a woman.  You'll be severely wrecking your chances if you hover around her, acting all jumpy and jittery.

Nonetheless, save the algorithms for other things, like rocket science.  You can't possibly reduce social dynamics down to a mathematical equation.

No computer can intelligently decipher the complex patterns of human behavior - your BRAIN is the only tool that can do that.

Sure, rules may help you out when you're new to the dating scene, but in the long run you'll need to cut the umbilical cord and come into your own.  Eventually, you'll have to be someone that has a good amount of common sense and good judgment and won't need a bunch of rules to tell him what to do.

Furthermore, these rules pale in comparison to simply being a man who oozes with HIGH VALUE-instead of pretending to be one.

You can only get so far with pre-packaged templates for how to act around women.  In fact, putting up an act will put you at risk of women seeing right through the smoke and mirrors (which is what the rules are all about). 

Instead, you're better off cultivating a genuine personality that's consistent in word and deed.  Saying one thing and doing another is NOT the way to relationship bliss.

Thus, you should be focusing on developing attraction by investing in the self-confidence that's *already* lurking within you. 

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I highly suggest you check this out BEFORE you fall into the trap of playing deceptive mind games with your woman.  This is your best bet to becoming the ideal version of yourself that'll leave the ladies swooning.

Same Ol’ Same Ol

You have a HOT date! Want to really electrify her? Then you gotta do something out ofbikini skydive the ordinary, something thrilling. How about dinner and a movie?

Huh? Hey, wait just a minute. That’s exactly what you did on your last date, and the one before that, and the one before that.

Ok, some movies really are entertaining and dinner, for the most part, can be a, uh, a fulfilling experience. But the whole dinner-and-a-movie thing is not a knock-yer-socks off kinda date - about as electrifying as a Sunday dinner at mom’s house.

Want to impress a first-time date or add some zing to your current relationship? Here are a few ideas. If these don’t strike the right cord, use your imagination and come up with something on your own, something that expresses who you are!

Don’t go out to dinner, stay in. Read a cookbook and make something sumptuous for just the two of you. No roommates allowed. Buy them tickets to the movies and kick their lazy butts out for the evening.
When was the last time you packed a picnic and ate lunch on the steps of St Patrick’s or on the shore of the Columbia River? Pack up a basket of goodies, a chilled bottle of your favorite beverage and really get to know your date.

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 Instead of traipsing to a movie try a theme park. Big or small, just about everybody loves a day at a theme park. From the roller coasters to the bumper cars, the attractions can help make a date more genuine and enjoyable. Or, if that sounds like too much excitement, try a visit to the zoo, a stroll through a local museum or an art gallery.

For the hard-core thrill-seeking daters, you might want to consider taking a jump out of a perfectly good airplane at 13,000 feet. More and more, there are companies that offer training, equipment and flight diving packages. I’ve seen a couple starting in the neighborhood of $250. I can’t think of a better way to show your date you care by placing their life in hands of a professional skydiver. If they just can’t jump out of the plane by themselves hook them up with a tandem dive. In a tandem dive the novice is harnessed onto the front of a professional diver. The professional carry’s a parachute built for two people. When the plane reaches 13,000 feet both people jump together. Whew - nearly 60 seconds of free-falling! Now that’s thrilling!
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Can you recall the name of the last movie you saw with ol’ what’s her name? And what was that slimy stuff you ate the last time you went out with ol’ what’s her name? While jumping out of an airplane is not for everyone, I guarantee your date will never forget you or the experience of bailing out at 13,000 feet!

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